Stress: Motivation for Work/Life Balance
By Barry Maher
Experts say that reacting to events as stressful is learned behavior. We can unlearn it and learn new ways to react. Of course none of these experts ever worked for your boss.
Still, it’s really not the outside event that’s stressing you out, is it? You and your body are stressing you out. You’re allowing the outside event to trigger that reaction.
Workers at one Japanese firm take a hula break everyday.
Paul Sheehan is an architect and the CFO of the Dyer Sheehan Group, Inc., a leading investment real estate brokerage in Ventura, California. He’s also a former professional musician. Paul handles stress as well as anyone I know. When he does need a break, he shuts off his phone and closes his office door — a sure sign he’s not to be disturbed. Then he picks up his guitar.
“I might spend 15 or 20 minutes concentrating intently on whatever song I’m writing,” he says. “And de-pressurizing. For those few moments, work becomes the farthest thing from my mind.”
If sex — or at least sex with your spouse — can’t get your mind off your job, find something that will. Learn to dance or play a musical instrument, exercise, play in a softball or bowling league, take courses in adult ed, take a day trip, have a night on the town, collect matchbook covers — or manhole covers for that matter — or just do something you’ve never done.
If you’ve got to obsess away from the job, do it about something other than work. Back in the early 70s, a good friend of mine got deeply into the “Paul McCartney is dead” hoopla.
“I decided to worry about that,” he said, “so I won’t have to worry about anything more important.”
If all else fails, worry about Paul McCartney. I mean, could Silly Love Song really have been written by the same man who wrote Yesterday? If he’s not Billy Shears, who is? What is really going on here, and isn’t it just possible that Brian Epstein and John Lennon were eliminated because they knew too much? And how does Marilyn Monroe fit into all this?